20 My son, keep your father’s commandment,
and forsake not your mother’s teaching.
21 Bind them on your heart always;
tie them around your neck.
22 When you walk, they will lead you;
when you lie down, they will watch over you;
and when you awake, they will talk with you.
23 For the commandment is a lamp and the teaching a light,
and the reproofs of discipline are the way of life,
24 to preserve you from the evil woman, from the smooth tongue of the adulteress. 25 Do not desire her beauty in your heart,
and do not let her capture you with her eyelashes;
26 for the price of a prostitute is only a loaf of bread, but a married woman hunts down a precious life.
27 Can a man carry fire next to his chest
and his clothes not be burned?
28 Or can one walk on hot coals
and his feet not be scorched?
29 So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife;
none who touches her will go unpunished.
30 People do not despise a thief if he steals
to satisfy his appetite when he is hungry,
31 but if he is caught, he will pay sevenfold;
he will give all the goods of his house.
32 He who commits adultery lacks sense;
he who does it destroys himself.
33 He will get wounds and dishonor,
and his disgrace will not be wiped away.
34 For jealousy makes a man furious,
and he will not spare when he takes revenge.
35 He will accept no compensation;
he will refuse though you multiply gifts. Proverbs 6:20-35 ESV

P: Instruction about sexuality should begin in the home.

Adultery:

1. Is dangerous.
2. Its destruction is inevitable.
3. Is foolish.
4. Is unbelievably costly.

“Can a man carry fire next to his chest
and his clothes not be burned?
Or can one walk on hot coals
and his feet not be scorched? Proverbs 6:27-28 ESV

Do I see and feel the danger of adultery and what it can do?

7:1 My son, keep my words
and treasure up my commandments with you;
2 keep my commandments and live;
keep my teaching as the apple of your eye;
3 bind them on your fingers;
write them on the tablet of your heart.
4 Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,”
and call insight your intimate friend,
5 to keep you from the forbidden woman,
from the adulteress with her smooth words. 6 For at the window of my house
I have looked out through my lattice,
7 and I have seen among the simple,
I have perceived among the youths,
a young man lacking sense,
8 passing along the street near her corner,
taking the road to her house
9 in the twilight, in the evening,
at the time of night and darkness. 10 And behold, the woman meets him,
dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart. 11 She is loud and wayward;
her feet do not stay at home;
12 now in the street, now in the market,
and at every corner she lies in wait.
13 She seizes him and kisses him,
and with bold face she says to him,
14 “I had to offer sacrifices, and today I have paid my vows;
15 so now I have come out to meet you,
to seek you eagerly, and I have found you.
16 I have spread my couch with coverings,
colored linens from Egyptian linen;
17 I have perfumed my bed with myrrh,
aloes, and cinnamon.
18 Come, let us take our fill of love till morning;
let us delight ourselves with love.
19 For my husband is not at home;
he has gone on a long journey;
20 he took a bag of money with him;
at full moon he will come home.” 21 With much seductive speech she persuades him;
with her smooth talk she compels him.
22 All at once he follows her,
as an ox goes to the slaughter,
or as a stag is caught fast 23 till an arrow pierces its liver;
as a bird rushes into a snare;
he does not know that it will cost him his life. 24 And now, O sons, listen to me,
and be attentive to the words of my mouth.
25 Let not your heart turn aside to her ways;
do not stray into her paths,
26 for many a victim has she laid low,
and all her slain are a mighty throng.
27 Her house is the way to Sheol,
going down to the chambers of death. Proverbs 7:1-27 ESV

v. 1-5 This teaching is intended to keep the hearer out of the arms of the adulteress. “and live”—which also seems to ignore them would lead to death.
v.6-7 She has been watching for this man. He is an easy target—a ‘simple fool.’
v.8-9 He is going by her place and at the worst possible time!
v.10-13 Notice who she is and how she works.
v.14-15 She tells lies and feigns religious interest.
v. 16-18, 21 She speaks sweetly to him with ‘Song of Solomon’ language.
v. 19-20 She promises him safety and no consequences.
v.22-23 He is caught. It costs him his life.
v.24-27 Strong warning because destruction lies with her.

How This Happens to Us:

1. We don’t have to go looking for sexual sin. It is already looking for us.
2. We often put ourselves in situations like the simple fool in this story.
   • We get alone. We don’t take precautions. We put ourselves in situations where we can make mistakes. Gradual. Even accidental.
   • Men: Primarily physical. Porn/inappropriate activity. Not exclusively. Women: Primarily emotional. Though not exclusively.
3. Adultery comes to us with her enticing temptation and offer of safety.
4. It often happens gradually, sometimes without our even knowing.
5. We step out and suffer the consequences.

How am I easing onto the slippery slope in any way? (Think carefully).

How Do We Avoid It? : Go on the Offensive Against It.

1. See and feel the weight of the Scriptures as they speak of adultery.
   • Allow this drive us to the Cross and our deep need for Jesus.
2. Recognize where adultery is really coming from—the heart (Matt. 15:19).
3. Pray that God would create in us a greater love for Jesus hatred for sin.
4. Be preemptive in regard to our enemy and your own flesh.
   • Make no provision for your flesh (Rom. 13:14)
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     • Be very mindful of your relationships and behavior.
     • Have others speaking into your life on this issue—praying, asking hard questions, supporting, etc.
     • Learn the ‘bounce.’ Men: Eyes. Women: Minds.
   • Single: Walk closely in community. Pray. Support. Accountable.
   • Married: One of the best protections we can have against adultery is strong marriage and healthy intimate life. Pray and work toward Prov. 5.
   • With children: Create a culture of open communication in regard to this, and all other, issues.
5. If you are already ensnared, get help. We can help.

What is God saying to me about this issue?

Works Consulted : Expositor’s Bible Commentary, Life Application Bible, MacArthur Study Bible, Messages by Tim Keller, Darrin Patrick

So I, like most people, enjoy a good meal. Luckily Louisville has much to offer when it comes to tasty and affordable fare. Three of these places I’ve highlighted below.

Safier’s

If you ever find yourself downtown and hungry, I would highly recommend Safier’s. The food is Persian and is anchored by a few delicious choices. To generalize, you can get a “sandwich” or a meal. The sandwich is a bunch of good stuff like chicken, beef, falafel, lettuce, pickled turnip (I think), garlic sauce, tahini sauce, onions, tomatoes, etc. wrapped in a large pita (the good stuff varies for each menu item).

The meal is the sandwich without the large pita wrap, plus rice and salad. The falafel is good, as is the chicken shawarma. For first timers I would recommend the chicken shawarma.

Safier’s is located at 641 S. 4th Street. (View picture, view map)

El Mundo

The City is not short of Mexican/TexMex offerings, usually chips and salsa being a good enough reason alone to visit. El Mundo is a bit different from your typical Mexican restaurant, mainly they don’t serve free chips and salsa (although you can order it as an appetizer). That said though, their food is very yummy and comes in hearty portions. I really like the pan-fried fish tacos; and the pork dishes are good as well.

El Mundo is located at 2345 Frankfort Avenue. (View Map)

Photo Credit: taurusaficionado on Flickr

Ramsi’s Cafe on the World

If a visitor to the City wants to take part in a true Louisville dining experience, more times than not I would take them to Ramsi’s Cafe on the World. Why? Mainly because it’s so unique; and therefore hard to compare to restaurants in other cities, inherently making it a Louisville special.

I think its anomaly lies in the fact that it has such a wide range of options and that the majority of these options are really good. So it’s an easy crowd pleaser and a great place to try new meals. I have three favorites on the menu: The Jamaican Jerk chicken sandwich, the Empress chicken and the East meets South fajitas. You’ll leave wondering if you’ll ever experience anything quite like it again. You won’t. Unless you go back.

Ramsi’s is located at 1293 Bardstown Road. (View map)

Photo Credit: Todd Mundt on Flickr

Cautions:

• To think that this message is not for you.
• To move past this too quickly without careful reflection.
• To think that change is not possible for you.

Seeing the Danger:

• Anger destroys your body.
• Anger destroys relationships (family, work, neighbors, etc.)
• Anger destroys community (Paul’s letters, church life, etc.)
• “…the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” Jas. 1:20
• Is not consistent with who we now are in Christ. Gal. 5:22-25
• The “Hot/Quick-Tempered Man” in the Book of Proverbs:
  • Lit. “man of heat”
  • “Acts foolishly” (14:17)
  • “Stirs up strife” (15:18, 29:22)
  • “Causes much transgression” (29:22)
  • “Make no friendship with a man given to anger…” (22:25)

Do I see the damage that anger can do? That MY anger can do?

Understanding Anger:

• Anger is not a sin in and of itself—a natural, human emotion.
  • God gets angry (Ps. 7:11, 1 Kings 11:9). Jesus got angry (Mk. 3:5)
• There are two kinds of anger: Righteous and Unrighteous
  • Righteous: Injustice in the world. Sin and its effects. Poor choices.
  • Unrighteous: All the things that don’t fall into the previous category.
• All of us have a ‘default setting’ when it comes to anger.
  • “Stuff it down” “Let it out!” “The Sniper”
• Anger is not always a primary emotion. (Sin behind the sin)
• Anger often reveals idolatry.
  • When our idols get threatened, we get ready to fight to defend them.
  • Control—“This situation is out of my control so I am mad…”
  • Selfishness/Self-Centeredness—“I didn’t get my way so I am mad…”
  • Fear of Man—“What they said about me made me mad…”

What is my anger revealing about me?

Better Paths:
“Slow to Anger”

• “Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding” (14:29)
• “Good sense makes one slow to anger and it is his glory to overlook an offense.” (19:11)
• “Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” (16:32)
• “A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.” (15:18)

“Becoming Angry, But Not Sinning”
25 Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. 26 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, 27 and give no opportunity to the devil. Eph. 4:25-27 ESV

What will this look like in your particular spheres in life? Work? Home—Spouse, Kids? Sports?

How Do We Walk in It?

1. See and feel the weight of the Scriptures as they speak of anger.
   • Allow this drive us to the Cross and our deep need for Jesus.
2. Pray that God would teach us to be rightly angry about the right things and have the discernment we need to be “slow to anger” and “be angry and not sin.”
3. When you get angry, ask “Why am I angry?”
   • Righteous cause: Right response? No response?
   • Other: Ask the right questions:
     • Should I just overlook this offense?
     • Am I simply protecting my idols? On scale of 1-10, was your response in line with the situation?
     • Is there some hurt from the past coming into the present?
4. Be quick to repent and forgive.
   • Repentance is not just a moment but also a way of life.
   • Leverage your community.
5. Be proactive in regard to our enemy and your own flesh.
   • Make no provision for your flesh (Rom. 13:14)
   • Learn to speak softly (Prov. 15:1)
   • Practice the pause. Stop. Pray!

What is God saying to me about my anger?

Works Consulted : Expositor’s Bible Commentary, Life Application Bible, MacArthur Study Bible, Messages by Tim Keller, Darrin Patrick

Old Louisville is not really the oldest part of Louisville, but it is one of the most unique. I grew fond of Old Louisville in college at UofL. My first apartment was in Old Louisville as were most of my friend’s apartments. When David and I got married we chose to make our first home there in an apartment on the second story of an old house. Why do we love Old Louisville so much? Well let me tell you.

Old Louisville has history around every corner. The neighborhood grew rapidly after the Southern Exposition was held in what is now St. James Court and Central Park from 1883 to 1887. The Exposition was an event that brought millions to Louisville to view Thomas Edison’s first public display of the light bulb; as well as 4,600 electric lamps at a time when electric lighting was still brand new.

The Southern Exposition helped make Old Louisville what it is today – the largest preserved Victorian district in the United States. Victorian homes are known for being large and ornate, and Old Louisville is no exception. It contains many different Victorian styles including Romanesque, Italianate, Gothic, Queen Anne, Chateauesque and Renaissance Revival.

If you’re bored one Saturday then take a walk down 3rd or 4th Street between Cardinal and Oak to view some of these amazing homes, including Louisville’s most expensive home, the Ferguson Mansion. You can also walk among the United States’ largest collection of pedestrian-only streets. There are eleven of these located in Old Louisville, and most are along 4th Street. See if you can find them all! Two of my favorite can be found in St. James Court.

Besides the amazing architecture, Old Louisville features some great places to eat. For a great burger and some game-watching (Go Cards!) head to the Granville Inn at 3rd and Gaulbert. If you’re wanting something a little fancier, try Amici for some romantic Italian or Carly Rae’s House of Blues if you’re in the mood for Southern Cajun (during the warmer months Carly Rae’s has a great patio). What about lunch? Don’t worry, you can try Third Avenue Café, which has a unique spin on traditional lunch fare. I’m getting hungry so let’s move on.

Finally there are three events that I highly recommend. In July, you must check out the Old Louisville Garden Tour. Many of the homes have hidden backyard gardens, either out-of-sight behind the house or surrounded by high brick walls. For a small fee you can tour 10-15 of these gardens that range from simple to elaborate. At one house they even had a woman painting in the garden and allowed visitors to tour the house as well.

If you would rather see the interior of the homes instead of the gardens, then come to the Christmas Homes Tour. This was my gift to David last Christmas and I enjoyed it just as much as he did. There were about 10-15 homes that opened their doors and allowed you to walk through every room in the house. Each was decorated for Christmas and ranged from small houses to large mansions, including the Conrad-Caldwell house.

Last but not least is the St. James Court Art Show. The show is a juried fine arts and fine crafts fair which takes place every October in Old Louisville. You can find, view and buy many wonderful hand-crafted pieces while walking the lovely streets of Old Louisville. I cannot describe the Art Fair as well as its website can (designed by our very own David Yeiser) so check it out!

I could go on and on about Old Louisville but I better stop now before I overwhelm you! If you love the Highlands and Frankfort Avenue but need a change of scenery, or if you just want to experience something uniquely Louisville then come see Old Louisville, and don’t forget your camera!

42 And they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers. 43 And awe came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were being done through the apostles. 44 And all who believed were together and had all things in common. 45 And they were selling their possessions and belongings and distributing the proceeds to all, as any had need. 46 And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts, 47 praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved. Acts 2:42-47 ESV

Guiding Thoughts:

1. This passage doesn’t say everything that could be said about the Church.
2. We are not looking for a prescription but for principles.

“they devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching” For them, live. For us in the Scriptures

Am I in a regular rhythm of reading, studying and reflecting on the Bible? If not, why not?

“and the fellowship” expansive word, signifying a partnership in/with. Life together!

“to the breaking of bread” fellowship meals and/or taking the Lord’s Supper.

Am I in the rhythm of celebrating meals with other believers? (More than just getting together.)

“and the prayers” times of prayer, they were a people of prayer.

We want to grow in this area as a church. Stay tuned. God is at work!
Am I in the rhythm of praying for my pastors, our mission, those in my life who don’t know Christ?

“awe came upon every soul” they were a people who we consistently in awe of God.

Do I have a sense of awe for who God is and what He is doing?

“and had all things in common, selling possessions and belongings and distributing the proceeds to all as any had need” they were concerned with meeting the needs of others and were willing to meet them.

Am I in the seeing and meeting the needs of others around me both inside and outside the church?

“temple together…in their homes” Large group, small group – ish.

Are Sunday worship and community groups an integral part of our lives?

“praising God” They were a people of praise.
“having favor with all the people” They had influence and favor in their community.

Do I have favor and influence among the people in my community?

“those who were being saved” People were turning from their sins and trusting in Christ and being added to the Church.

Why am I not seeing more of this? What is God calling me to do?

Works Consulted : Expositor’s Bible Commentary, A.T. Robertson’s Word Pictures

God’s Work, done God’s Way, for God’s glory.

God’s Work:

• Work was God’s idea—and it is good.
  • The difficulty of work is a result of sin, but not work itself.
• All work CAN be “God’s Work” no matter what we do.*
  • “God’s Work” is about advancing the Kingdom.
  • “God’s Work” is not just done by people on church staffs.
  • If you want to think about sharing Jesus, you’d better work hard.

Do I see myself as doing “holy work?” If not what needs to change?

Done God’s Way:

Avoid: “The Sluggard”

• Snapshot 1: Prov. 6:6-11
  • “sleep, slumber, folding hands to rest” Asleep at the wheel.
  • Learn from the ant!
• Snapshot 2: Prov. 24:30-34
  • His field is overgrown, wall broken down (30-31)
  • Learn a lesson from him! (32-34)
• Snapshot 3: Prov. 26:13-16
  • Makes excuses for why he doesn’t work (13)
  • Turns over in bed like a door on a hinge (14)
  • Too lazy to bring his hand out of a dish! (15)
  • Wiser in his own eyes than actual wise men (16)
• He is a brother to him who destroys (18:9)
• He is strife to his boss (10:26)
• His soul craves but he gets nothing (13:4)
• Does not have a harvest because he doesn’t work the field (20:4)
• His desire will kill him because he refuses to labor (21:25)

Where do you see the trail of the sluggard already in your life?

Embody: “The Diligent”
Examples of Diligence in Your Own Life (Share it with them if you can.):

Leads to:

• Wealth, riches, (12:27, 10:4)
• Ruling (12:24)
• Soul richly supplied (13:4)
• Their plans lead to abundance (21:5)
• Greater opportunity (22:29)

Prov. 16:26 Caution: We don’t want to slip from Diligence into Drivenness.

Where do I see the evidence of grace already at work in my diligence? In what areas do I need to develop more diligence?

How do we work for God’s glory?

1. Assess where you are in light of what we have heard today.
   • Where am I looking like a sluggard? The diligent?
2. Realize that God will work with you no matter where you are.
   • The Gospel is a story of Redemption.
   • Repent. Not just a moment but a way of life.
3. Ask “What changes God is calling me to make?”
   • Work harder? Ease up and find balance? Change jobs?
4. Ask “What is the WISE CHOICE in this situation?”
5. Recognize that, ultimately, if we are following Jesus, we work for God, not our employers.
   • Col. 3:23, 1 Cor. 10:31

Are these actions a habit in our lives? If not, what needs to change?

Am I doing God’s Work, God’s Way, for God’s Glory?

Homework:

1. Review these notes and think about their implications for your own life.
2. Share your stories of victory and struggle with your community group.
3. Parents! Look for ways to help instill these truths in your children in creative ways.
4. Read a chapter of Proverbs a day (31 chapters). Soak in it!

Works Consulted : Expositor’s Bible Commentary, Life Application Bible, MacArthur Study Bible, Messages by Steve Hart, Tim Keller, Mark Driscoll, Andy Stanley, Christians in the Marketplace by Bill Hybels, Your Work Maters to God by Doug Sherman and William Hendricks

Cautions:

• To think that wise speech is only about two lists—the things we should and shouldn’t say.
• To miss the connection that Jesus makes between our hearts and our mouths.
  • This is really a conversation about “roots and fruit.”

The Power of Words:

• Have the power to wound or heal (12:18)
• The tongue can be a ‘tree of life’ or break the spirit (15:4)
• Death and life are in the power of the tongue (18:21)

Our Words Have the Power of Life and Death.

• Our words can keep us out of trouble (21:23)
• Our words can also lead us to ruin (13:3)
• Our words offer us a choice—wisdom or folly.
• Our words reveal what is in our hearts (Matt. 12:34)

When you open your mouth, do you realize what kind of power you have? Am I using my words to bring life or death?

The Character of Our Words:

Avoid:

• A lying tongue (6:16, 12:19, 21:6, 17:20)
• Crooked speech, devious talk (4:24)
• Gossip (20:19, 18:8)
• Flattering mouth (26:28)
• Talking too much, too many words (10:19)
• Speaking rashly (13:3)
• Hasty in his words (29:20)
• Harsh words (15:1)

Where do you see evidence of this kind of speech already at work in your life?

Embody:

• Gracious speech (22:11, 16:24)
• Speech that shows restraint (10:19, 17:27)
• “Fitly spoken” words (right word at the right moment) (25:11)
• Judicious speech (16:23)
• Sweet speech increases persuasiveness (16:21)
• Good / Positive (12:25)

Where do I see the evidence of grace already at work in me using this kind of speech? Where can I encourage it in the lives of those around me (myself, spouse, coworkers, children, etc.)?

How Do We Walk in It?

1. Recognize how much is at stake with our words.
   • Look back at the power the Bible says they have.
2. Assess where you are in light of what we have heard today.
   • Listen to your words. Listen to your heart.
3. Allow this to remind you of your great need for Jesus and repent.
   • Despair or depend.
   • Repentance is not just a moment but a way of life.
4. Ask “What changes God is calling you to make?”
   • Tell the truth.
   • Eliminate lying, gossip, filthy language.
   • Think before you speak.
   • Respond don’t react.
   • Make it your goal to bring life with your words.
     • Am I loving this person with what I am about to say?
     • Have I prayed about what I am about to say?
   • Seek accountability from your Community Group.
5. Ask “What is the WISE CHOICE in this situation?”

Are these actions a habit in our lives? If not, what needs to change?

What Words Are Defining Me Today?

Homework:

1. Review these notes and think about their implications for your own life.
2. Parents! Look for ways to help see the power of their words and the kind of speech to avoid and embody.
3. Read a chapter of Proverbs a day (31 chapters). Soak in it!
4. Pray for wisdom like Solomon did. God will answer this prayer!
5. Continue asking “Where do I most need wisdom in my life?” Ask God. Ask others.

Works Consulted : Expositor’s Bible Commentary, Life Application Bible, MacArthur Study Bible, Messages by Steve Hart, Tim Keller, Darrin Patrick, Gary Shavey

Another luxury of Louisville is the Farmers Markets. Small family farms from all around bring their locally grown products to these markets Saturday morning. My favorite is the St. Matthews Farmers Market located at Beargrass Christian Church, 4100 Shelbyville Road. They are open from 8 AM to noon every Saturday during the season (May 17 - September 27).

There are all sorts of produce, eggs, baked goods, meats and other local vendors that setup booths. Here are my top five favorites:

1. Sunergos Coffee: A local microrostery and espresso bar. You can purchase whole bean coffee by the pound ($10/lb.) or fresh brewed coffee ($2/cup) to help you wake up while you shop.
2. Sunshine Farms: A local farm where they have a wide range of produce all picked that week. In my opinion they have some of the best tomatoes at the market ($2.00/lb.).
3. Kenny’s Farmhouse Cheese: Locally harvested cheese by the 1/2 lb. They have all of the staples (Cheddar, Jack, etc) as well as some really good exotic flavors like St. Jerome and Chipotle Colby (ranging $4 to $6 per 1/2 lb. package). You’ve got to try the Chipotle Colby! It’s amazing!
4. Sherwood Acres: Some of the best meat you’ll be able to find in Louisville. My favorite part is that the Vice President of the ranch, Dan Weintraub is there at the table selling you the meat. He’ll even give you a full run down of why they choose Belted Galloway cattle and the best way to prepare it to get the maximum flavor out of it.
5. Companions Creek Farm: These free-range eggs are amazing. I didn’t believe people when they told me that free-range eggs taste so much better. But they’re right. I asked the farmer and he explained that free-range eggs have a different diet. They get to eat all of the bugs and other things that chickens love and are unable to get when in commercial houses and have a steady diet of grain. I recommend getting the Rainbow Eggs ($3.50/dozen). They are all different sizes and colors but have the same great taste.

You can also get all sorts of food at the market, such as omlettes, BBQ, cup cakes, cookies, etc.

There are almost 50 farmers markets open on Saturday and even a few on Friday around Louisville. You can find information about them in the Courier Journal. Just search for “farmers market” and the look in the events section. Some, like the one in St. Matthews, even have live music.

Remember that these are farmers markets, which means cash-only. Most of the markets close at the end of the summer, so go visit them soon!

Here are a few pictures from my last visit.

1. Teach your children to embody the characteristics of wisdom.

In my message two weeks ago, I went to significant length to lay out the picture of “the wise man/woman” from Proverbs. If you missed the message, you can watch or download it here or look at the list of the characteristics that I have posted below to encourage through both word and deed (remember, more is caught than taught…) in the lives of your children. It is also a good practice to point out examples of wisdom (and folly) that you might see in your own lives in the news, in the lives of other members of the church, neighbors, in-laws etc.

2. Teach your children all of the God-honoring and practical benefits of wisdom.

I believe it is no accident that the Proverbs are FULL of examples of the good things that happen when we choose to walk the path of wisdom. While there will naturally be potholes along the way, following wisdom is truly the way that MAKES LIFE WORK. As with the qualities of wisdom, look below for the post of all of them listed out. Also, as before, get creative and look for ways that you can show these benefits in action. Make up characters, stories, draw pictures…whatever it takes to write these lessons on your children’s minds and shows them that walking in wisdom is the way to live that brings God the most glory and them the most good.

3. Point to Jesus as the Ultimate embodiment and example of the wisdom of God.

Throughout this series, we will continue to come back to the important truth set forth in 1 Corinthians 1:24—that Jesus Christ is the wisdom and power of God. As I have said time and time again, we must always remember that God didn’t send Jesus just to make us wise people but to pay for our sins and draw us into a life that leads us toward becoming like Him. We must continue to communicate this important truth to our children, holding out their need to turn to Jesus in faith and repentance. The way I often do this is by reminding them that if they look to Christ, He will help them make the “wise choice” and that His grace is there for them if they don’t.

What Does Wisdom Look Like in Practice?

• Accepts reproof (9:8)
• Accepts instruction which leads to greater wisdom (9:9)
• Receives commandments (10:8)
• Lays up, seeks and commends knowledge (10:14, 15:2, 18:15)
• Captures souls (11:30)
• Listens to advice, accepts instruction (12:15, 13:10, 19:20)
• Receives instruction which leads to knowledge (21:11)
• Hears his father’s instruction (13:1)
• Overlooks insults (12:16)
• Makes his speech judicious (16:23)
• Sees danger and hides himself (22:3)
• Is cautious, turns away from and is wary of evil (14:16, 27:12)
• Is full of strength (24:5)
• Turn away wrath (29:8)
• Quietly holds back his spirit (29:11)

What Are the Benefits of Wisdom?

• Blessing, long life, riches and honor, peace (3:13-18)
• Wealth, treasure and provision (14:24, 21:20)
• Wise will inherit honor (3:35)
• Makes your father/parents glad (10:1, 15:20, 23:15, 24, 29:3)
• Will lead to a future and a hope (24:13-14)
• Longevity, lack of fear, better sleep (3:21-24)
• Appeases wrath (16:14)
• The tongue of the wise brings healing (12:18)
• The lips of the wise will preserve them (14:3)
• Leads to deliverance (28:26)
• Will have the favor of leaders (14:35)
• Leads to ruling and leading (17:2)

20 My son, be attentive to my words; incline your ear to my sayings. 21 Let them not escape from your sight; keep them within your heart. 22 For they are life to those who find them, and healing to all their flesh. 23 Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life. 24 Put away from you crooked speech, and put devious talk far from you. 25 Let your eyes look directly forward, and your gaze be straight before you. 26 Ponder the path of your feet; then all your ways will be sure. 27 Do not swerve to the right or to the left; turn your foot away from evil. Proverbs 4:20-27 ESV

The Big Idea: As believers we must see the place of the heart within the text of proverbs, its place within the Old Testament, and scripture as a whole.

P: See the Description of the Heart.
The Proverbs state that the heart is the seat of: Understanding, learning, faith, memory, obedience, rebellion, planning, imagination, lust, the will, perversity, deceit, folly, anxiety, hope, joy, hurt, grief, peace, wisdom, happiness, discernment, rage, motives, purity, folly, friendship, gladness, envy, cheerfulness, contemplation, pride, speech, violence, reasoning, sadness, evil, sin, hardness toward God.

The heart is the center, essence, and nature of our being.

“The crucible is for silver, and the furnace is for gold, and the Lord tests hearts.” Proverbs 17: 3
“As in water face reflects face, so the heart of man reflects the man.” Proverbs 27:19
“Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.” Proverbs 4:23

P: See the Comparison of the Heart.
“The Lord said in his heart, ‘I will never again curse the ground because of man, for the intention of man’s heart is evil from his youth.’” Genesis 8:23
“But now your kingdom shall not continue. The Lord has sought out a man after his own heart, and the Lord has commanded him to be prince over his people, because you have not kept what the Lord commanded you.” 1 Samuel 13:14
“Who shall ascend the hill of the Lord? And who shall stand in his holy place? He who has clean hands and a pure heart, who does not lift up his soul to what is false and does not swear deceitfully.” Psalms 24:3-4

Later in the Old Testament the prophets again describe the heart:
“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9
“And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.” Ezekiel 36:26

Jesus speaks of the heart on multiple occasions:
“For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” Matthew 12:34
“And he said to them, “Well did Isaiah prophesy of you hypocrites, as it is written, “‘This people honors me with their lips, but their heart is far from me; in vain do they worship me, teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.’ You leave the commandment of God and hold to the tradition of men.”” Mark 7:6-8

What is it your heart is after?

P: See the Redemption of the Heart.
“For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart. 13 And no creature is hidden from his sight, but all are naked and exposed to the eyes of him to whom we must give account.” Hebrews 4:12-13

TAKEAWAY:
Though my heart is more wicked than I could have ever believed, I am more loved than I could ever imagine, and am being progressively changed into the likeness of Christ through His work in my life.

Works Consulted: Notes on Proverbs by H.A. Ironsides, Hebrews by John MacArthur, Matthew Henry Commentary, Word Study of the Old Testament by Spiros Zodhiates, and sermons by Timothy Keller, Mark Driscoll, and Steve Hart..

With this in mind, I want to share just a few tips of how I have been trying to use the Proverbs and the wisdom they point to with my own kids who are 5, 3, and almost 2. The following are a few strategies that we use in our home.

1. Use the question “What is the wise choice?” as much as possible.

Of course, this question presupposes that your kids have somewhat of a grasp of what wisdom is. You can adapt our “living skillfully” or “making life work” definition if you’d like to put the concept in terms that your kids can understand. No matter how old your kids are, know that it is never to late to start. We want to lay this foundation now while the stakes are not as high as when the “Who do I date/marry?” or “Where do I go to college?” questions inevitably come.

2. When the children choose wrongly, use the question “What would have been the wise choice in that situation?” as much as possible.

Like all kids (and people!), my kids misbehave and make unwise choices in lots of situations. Whether it is whacking one another out of frustration or accidentally pouring their juice on the floor when it could have been prevented by pushing it away from the edge of the table, these moments of ‘folly’ are often great opportunities to talk about how to avoid similar troubles the next time around. Even though it may take a little more effort on our part as parents, seize these “teachable moments” as they arise.

3. Do your best to always connect wisdom (or the lack thereof) to Jesus and the Gospel.

As I have mentioned before, we try to make everything we do a “Gospel Greenhouse” opportunity at our house. Since our kids are young and don’t yet know Jesus, they need to hear the saving message of Jesus as often as possible. Every chance we get, we are talking about how Jesus died for our sins and will forgive us when we ask Him. Naturally, some of the most natural opportunities for broaching the topic are when an offense has been committed. I believe the same principle can be applied in regard to wisdom. When we are encouraging them to walk in wisdom either before or after the fact, we can naturally talk about Jesus as the ultimate embodiment of wisdom and that He will share His wisdom with us through His Word, through our parents, etc. If it is after the fact, we can talk about why we make wrong choices sometime in the first place (sin and its affects on the world) and why we need to be redeemed.

In the coming entries, I will be sharing more on this topic as well. If you liked what you read, forward it to someone else.

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Sermon Notes

Cautions for this Message:

• Hearing this message as if it is for someone else.
• Feeling self-righteous about how ‘un-foolish’ we perceive ourselves to be.
• Feeling overwhelmed and defeated by our foolishness.

Reading These Proverbs in Light of Jesus and the Gospel:

• Jesus is the ultimate embodiment of wisdom.
• Jesus died for our foolishness.
• Because of what Jesus has done we have both the pattern and Power we need to avoid foolishness and walk in wisdom.

What is a Fool?
Definition: Someone who is out of touch with the way God intended the world to work.
3 Different Kinds (+) of Fools in Proverbs: simple, mocker, vindictive

BEING A FOOL is the DANGER the Book of Proverbs wants us to avoid.

What Does a Fool Do?

• Despise wisdom and instruction, hate knowledge (1:7, 22)
• Trusts in his own mind (28:26)
• Takes no pleasure in understanding, instead airs his own opinion (18:2)
• Their lips do not spread wisdom (15:7)
• Utter slander (10:18)
• Their mouths pour out, feed on folly (15:2, 14)
• Their hearts proclaim folly and flaunt it (12:23, 13:16)
• Gives full vent to his spirit (29:11)
• Lips walk into a fight and their mouth invites a beating (18:6)
• Do wrong as if it were a joke (10:23)
• Turning away from evil is an abomination to them (13:19)
• Mock at the guilt offering (14:9)* (mock the things of God)
• Is reckless and careless (14:16)
• Quarreling (20:3)
• Only rages and laughs in an argument (29:9)
• Despises his father’s instruction (15:5)
• Despises his own mother (15:20)
• Their eyes are on the ends of the earth (17:24)
• Devours precious treasure and oil (21:20)* (waste their resources)

Where are the fingerprints of foolishness in my life? Am I ready to listen and make the necessary adjustments? Are there people speaking into my life that can help me in these areas? Am I walking in a healthy balance of depending upon Jesus to change me in these areas or simply ‘trying hard’ on my own?

What Are the Consequences of Being a Fool?

• Get disgrace (3:35)
• Their vexation is known at once (12:16)
• Will be servant to the wise of heart (11:29)
• They have no words of knowledge (14:7)
• Their folly is deceiving, brings folly (14:8, 24, 16:22)
• The complacency of fools destroys them (1:32)
• Babbling fool will com to ruin (10:8, 10:14)
• Condemnation and beatings (19:29)
• From their mouths comes a rod for their backs (14:3)
• Die for a lack of sense (10:21)
• Their companions will suffer harm (13:20)
• Hiring them is like an archer that wounds everyone (26:10)
• Their fathers have no joy, a ruin to him (17:21, 19:13)
• Sorrow to his mother (10:1)
• A grief to his father and bitterness to her who bore him (17:25)

How Do We Walk in It?

1. Recognize the ‘fingerprints of foolishness’ in our lives.
   • Confess. Repent. Thank God Jesus died for these areas.
   • Take a long, hard look at the consequences of being a fool.
2. Realize that God is reaching out to us no matter where we are. Respond!
   • Prov. 1:22-37, 9:1-6, Jas. 1:5
3. Follow the pattern of wisdom in the power of Jesus.
   • Do/don’t do what needs to be done in the power of Christ.
   • God didn’t just give us principles but a Person. Look to Jesus!
4. Walk with the wise so that you might grow wise (13:20).
   • Be aware of/avoid the company of fools.
5. Ask “What is the WISE CHOICE in this situation?”

Are these actions a habit in our lives? If not, what needs to change?

Homework:

1. Meditate on the key passages of Prov. 2, 8 in the book. Journal your thoughts.
2. Parents! Look for ways to teach your children both the practices and benefits avoiding fools and foolishness in their own lives.
3. Read a chapter of Proverbs a day (31 chapters). Soak in it!
4. Pray for wisdom like Solomon did. God will answer this prayer!
5. Continue asking “Where do I most need wisdom in my life?” Ask God. Ask others.
6. Begin asking “What is the WISE choice in this situation?”

Works Consulted : Expositor’s Bible Commentary, Life Application Bible, MacArthur Study Bible, Messages by Steve Hart, Tim Keller, Darrin Patrick, Mark Driscoll, Introduction to the Old Testament, Making Life Work by Bil Hybels, Fool Proofing Your Life by Jan Silvanous

I do this for a number of reasons. Here are a couple.

1. Stories help people remember engage with and remember Truth.
Even though I fear many communicators in our day may take this too far to the expense of depth in teaching the Bible, most agree that even the most glazed over listener always looks up when someone up front starts telling a story. It is who we are as people. That’s part of why Jesus was known as a master storyteller. Simply, put stories stick.

2. The nature of modern ministry.
In our world, cultivating biblical community is a difficult task. Even though we organize our church around groups, have men’s and women’s ministries that are built on relational mentoring and encourage people to get together and do life as much as possible, true community is still a daunting goal in our frenetic and disconnected society. Even though, by God’s grace, I believe a sense of community is more evident in our church than in many churches I have been a part of in the past, many of us still live in different parts of our city and find it difficult to connect in the midst of the busyness of life.

And that’s part of how stories can be so helpful because they connect us with life where it happens.

In a sense, a story is a window into the story teller’s life.

I love this passage from the Apostle Paul’s letter to the church at Thessalonica long ago.

7 But we were gentle among you, like a nursing mother taking care of her own children. 8 So, being affectionately desirous of you, we were ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own selves, because you had become very dear to us. 1 Thess. 2:7-8 ESV

This means that Paul’s ministry wasn’t just ‘in the pulpit on Sunday.’

It was also in the pulpit of his life.

In writing letters to his churches. Through his friends coming over and hanging out and working with him as he made tents. Doing life with him.

Since this is something we hope to continue to embrace in our growing church that is constantly making space for new friends, this ’sharing of our own selves’ is going to look a little different than it did in Paul’s day.

But that’s why there are personal stories that can teach Truth.

And blog entries.

And Facebook.

And coffees and lunches.

And why I tell stories to illustrate Truth on Sundays.

Because I want to share as much of my life as I can so that you can know that the Truth is for all of us and should be changing us all. And that your lead pastor is a real person who lives a real life, has real struggles, and who has real kids who put real beans up their noses. : )

When is the last time you told someone a story about what you learned or about what God is doing in your life?

Do you have any stories like that? If not, why not?

If so, we’d love to hear them.

Send us your story of what God is teaching you, maybe even through Crossing, and we will begin to post them here next week.

Stay tuned. The story is just beginning.

What is “Wisdom?”
Definition: Insight, prudence, discernment, understanding, Living skillfully.
Praises for wisdom: Better than jewels (8:11), Better than gold (3:14, 16:16), greater than strength (21:22, 24:5-6),
Commands to It: (1:20-33, 3:21, 4:5, 7, 5:1, 6:6, 7:4, 8:33, 9:12, 23:19, 23, 27:11)

WISDOM is the DESTINATION for the journey on which the Book of Proverbs takes us.

Wisdom and Jesus:

1. As we grow in Christ-likeness, we should grow in wisdom.
2. God has not just given us principles but a Person.
   • In Jesus, we have both the example and means toward wisdom.
3. Growth happens when we live our lives in light of these principles through God’s power at work within us through the Holy Spirit.

What Does Wisdom Look Like in Practice?

• Accepts reproof (9:8)
• Accepts instruction which leads to greater wisdom (9:9)
• Receives commandments (10:8)
• Lays up, seeks and commends knowledge (10:14, 15:2, 18:15)
• Captures souls (11:30)
• Listens to advice, accepts instruction (12:15, 13:10, 19:20)
• Receives instruction which leads to knowledge (21:11)
• Hears his father’s instruction (13:1)
• Overlooks insults (12:16)
• Makes his speech judicious (16:23)
• Sees danger and hides himself (22:3)
• Is cautious, turns away from and is wary of evil (14:16, 27:12)
• Is full of strength (24:5)
• Turn away wrath (29:8)
• Quietly holds back his spirit (29:11)

Where is there evidence of wisdom in my life? Where do I need to grow in wisdom the most? Are there people speaking into my life that can help me in these areas?

What Are the Benefits of Wisdom?

• Blessing, long life, riches and honor, peace (3:13-18)
• Wealth, treasure and provision (14:24, 21:20)
• Wise will inherit honor (3:35)
• Makes your father/parents glad (10:1, 15:20, 23:15, 24, 29:3)
• Will lead to a future and a hope (24:13-14)
• Longevity, lack of fear, better sleep (3:21-24)
• Appeases wrath (16:14)
• The tongue of the wise brings healing (12:18)
• The lips of the wise will preserve them (14:3)
• Leads to deliverance (28:26)
• Will have the favor of leaders (14:35)
• Leads to ruling and leading (17:2)

How Do We Walk in It?

1. Recognize that wisdom comes from the Lord (2:6).
   • It begins by us getting to know the Person of wisdom—Jesus.
2. Recognize that it requires surrender.
   • Prov. 3:5-6. Memorize. Live. Teach to your children.
3. Seek it diligently
   • 1 Kings 3—pray like Solomon
   • Prov. 2—cry out for wisdom!
4. Walk with the right people (13:20)—character is contagious.
   • The man who has understanding (10:13).
   • The righteous (10:31).
   • The humble (11:2).
5. Ask “What is the WISE CHOICE in this situation?”

Are these actions a habit in our lives? If not, what needs to change?

Homework:

1. Meditate on the key passages of Prov. 2, 8 in the book. Journal your thoughts.
2. Parents! Look for ways to teach your children both the practices and benefits of wisdom in real life situations.
3. Read a chapter of Proverbs a day (31 chapters). Soak in it!
4. Pray for wisdom like Solomon did. God will answer this prayer!
5. Continue asking “Where do I most need wisdom in my life?” Ask God. Ask others.
6. Begin asking “What is the WISE choice in this situation?”

Works Consulted : Expositor’s Bible Commentary, Life Application Bible, MacArthur Study Bible, Messages by Steve Hart, Tim Keller, Darrin Patrick, Mark Driscoll, Introduction to the Old Testament

The Wonder Years theme song begins to play in my mind. “What would you do if I sang out of tune? Would you stand up and walk out on me…?” Black and white video montage. Jock Cocker’s raspy crooning… I’m there baby. Paul, Winnie, Wayne, Kevin, Daniel Stern narrating the action. I’m there!

I loved that show! (Don’t lie, many of you did too…)

And then I remembered the FINAL episode of the series. Not sure how many of you saw that one.

It was shot like the last episode of Mad About You where it is a few years into the future and they are looking back after some more time had passed and life had changed. It was sad, actually. Life had changed a lot. Kevin’s dad had died suddenly of a massive heart attack. Life was different.

And that is what made me start thinking about the church—at least the Crossing expression of it.

What do we see now at Crossing? Lives being changed. People being changed daily by the Gospel and making lasting friendships. A ton of heart for mission. Lots of people serving in ministry. A new outpost for ministry just opened in Crescent Hill providing another strategic opportunity to get people connected to a local expression of Jesus’ church. Things are good. No, things are great.

But what if, in a few years (after a conspicuous absence in our running video-just like the show), the crew showed up and got footage of apathetic people, disgruntled volunteers, a closed down gathering, a community that had forsaken the Scriptures and the Mission only to become a country club interested in making themselves feel o.k. about staying the way they are.

That would be a tragedy.

Funny thing is, a lot of how the movie plays out is largely up to us.

Now we believe strongly in the Providence and Sovereignty of God. AND we also believe in authentic, human responsibility where our actions actually matter. It is our job to ‘work out of own salvation with fear and trembling’ (Phil. 2:12) and God’s job to will and work in us according to His good pleasure (Phil.2:13). Surely the natural outworking of both begins at the personal level and fleshes itself out in a myriad of ways, including serving God through the church.

So the question for all of us is pretty simple:

Are we being faithful to play our part in the Story God is telling in our midst?

As men/husbands/fathers in our homes? As women/wives/mothers? As singles committed to leveraging all they have for Jesus? As servants of Jesus through the local church?

It is our prayer as your pastors that the story God is telling in your life (and Crossing) is one of continued growth in grace and knowledge of Him.

It won’t be perfect. There will be plenty of ups and downs and commercial breaks. ; )

But it is our prayer that if someone turned the camera off for five years and brought it back with Joe Cocker and narration, that they would find both individuals and a community of people who loved Jesus and their neighbors even more than they did today. God will definitely hold up His end of the deal.

Are you being faithful to see that that happens?

What is “The Fear of the Lord?”

Definition: Authentic awe, honor, and reverence for God that influences the way we live our lives.

• the beginning of knowledge 1:7
• the beginning of wisdom…knowledge of the Holy One is insight. 9:10
• is instruction in wisdom 15:33
• Something we are commanded to do (3:7, 23:17, 24:21)

“The Fear of the Lord” serves as the TRUE NORTH for the COMPASS that the Book of Proverbs provides.

What Difference Does it Make?

1. Makes sure we have the right picture of God.
   • For some, our picture is too harsh. For others, too Soft.
   • A biblical, BALANCED picture is key.
2. Makes sure we have the right response to God.
   • Affects our worship both gathered and scattered.
   • Affects the way we approach our sin (14:2).
     • Whoever walks in uprightness fears the Lord, but he who is devious in his ways despises him Proverbs 14:2
   • Affects how we view the cross and the Gospel.

   Do I have a balanced picture of God? Does the way I live reflect an appropriate ‘fear of God’ in my life?

3. Practical Benefits Seen Clearly in Proverbs:
   • Prolongs life, but the years of the wicked will be short (10:27)
   • Provides a strong confidence (14:26)
   • Provides a refuge for our children (14:26)
   • It is a fountain of life (14:27)
   • Leads to a better quality of life. Better is a little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and trouble with it (15:16)
   • Causes us to turn away from evil and sin. By steadfast love and faithfulness iniquity is atoned for, and by the fear of the Lord one turns away from evil (16:6).
   • Leads to life and satisfaction (19:23).
   • Keeps us from harm.The fear of the Lord leads to life, and whoever has it rests satisfied; he will not be visited by harm (19:23).
   • Along with humility, leads to riches, honor and life. The reward for humility and fear of the Lord is riches and honor and life (22:4).
   • Leads to blessing upon our lives. Blessed is the one who fears the Lord always, but whoever hardens his heart will fall into calamity (28:14).

How Do We Walk in It?

1. We have to choose it (1:29-31).
   Because they hated knowledge and did not choose the fear of the Lord, would have none of my counsel and despised all my reproof, therefore they shall eat the fruit of their way, and have their fill of their own devices. (1:29-31)
2. We have to seek it (2:1-5)
   My son, if you receive my words and treasure up my commandments with you, 2 making your ear attentive to wisdom and inclining your heart to understanding; 3 yes, if you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding, 4 if you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures, 5 then you will understand the fear of the LORD and find the knowledge of God. (2:1-5)

This is an “if…then…statement.” (You do this and this will happen.)

1. Receive my words
2. Treasure my commandments
3. Make your ear attentive to wisdom
4. Incline your heart to understanding
5. Call out for insight, raise your voice for understanding
6. Seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures

Are these actions a habit in our lives? If not, what needs to change?

Closing Thought:
Our souls are like gardens. The “fear of the Lord” must be constantly cultivated in that garden. It is best cultivated within community. That’s why groups/relationships with other people who “fear the Lord” matter so much.

Homework:

1. Meditate on this concept of the “Fear of the Lord.” Are you walking in it in this moment? In that moment?
2. Do a word search on “fear Lord” at esv.org. Examine the other passages (both Old and New Testaments, in context) that lay out this concept as well.
3. Read a chapter of Proverbs a day (31 chapters). Soak in it!
4. Pray for wisdom like Solomon did. God will answer this prayer!
5. Continue asking “Where does my character need formation?” Ask God. Ask others.
6. Begin asking “What is the WISE choice in this situation?”

Works Consulted : Expositor’s Bible Commentary, Life Application Bible, MacArthur Study Bible, Messages by Steve Hart, Tim Keller, Darrin Patrick, Mark Driscoll, Introduction to the Old Testament